I’ve been thinking a lot lately about resilience. That is our ability to keep on keeping on.
As a society we have a lot of euphenisms such as ‘when the going gets tough, the tough get going’ and ‘what doesn’t kill you will make you stronger’. We are a species that has evolved due to resilience – and just a small amount of reliance upon technology.
As human being, in the scheme of things we are relatively insignificant. Despite our creativity, our use of technology and our resilience we cannot compete with the forces of nature, we cannot keep ourselves alive beyond a certain stage in life, we cannot enable ourselves to avoid addictive behaviours, and we appear incapable of protecting our own planet, the very source of our existance.
To some this may suggest we are lucky more than resilient. Yet in anyone’s lifetime they will have to work their way through a variety of events that have a negative impact upon them. Some will be placed into situations through mental illness, disability or chronic disease where they will have to display greater resilience than normal and for extended periods.
The world isn’t equal; and will likely never be equal. Ironically as a species we appear to enjoy making the lives of others difficult. We allow the gap between the haves and have nots to widen into an uncrossable chasm. We make judgments about people based upon race, religious belief, sexual orientation, wealth, location and a whole range of other equally discriminating criteria.
This discrimination forces peoples into positions of inequality, where they have to become more resilient, more creative, more supportive of those around them. Ironically those with access to greater wealth and resources become less resilient, less able, or willing, to help themselves or others.
On a day to day basis resilience is an important part of everyone’s life. We are faced daily by events and decisions made by others that have a negative impact upon us, and we have to find our own way of working with the impact of those events and decisions. We are forced into a daily work routine, often with people we have little time for, and where we are governed and managed by people with varying abilities. We have to find a way to work through this every day.
The ability to pause, draw breath and let go the things that don’t really matter is a prime competence. It is the mystical ‘balance’ referred to in competency assessments. It’s a fact. When we peel back the layers and ask the question, what is important we often discover that much of what we believed to be important really isn’t so.
When we can ask, and answer the question. What is important? We are well along the pathway towards resilience.
With 20+ years experience working with managers at all levels as a mentor and coach I can provide you with a safe space to talk, share, discuss, explore and plan. Sometimes that is all you will need to move forward. Email John Coxon anytime, it costs nothing for our initial conversation. Even if you are broke feel free to contact me. You will not be first person Ive helped in exchange for a sponge cake or shopping voucher. Just don’t tell the ATO LOL